There is no other character in Star Trek whose existence is still called into question as often as Ezri Dax and I’m so tired of it. Nothing about her seems to be good enough! The fact that’s she’s joined to Dax, the fact that she’s a woman, the (imo understandable) confusion she goes through wrt Worf, the way she tried to help Garak… and I could go on. There is just no way Ezri can win and if you read her tag on tumblr there is so much whining and so little content.
I love Ezri. And not because I don’t love Jadzia (as I’m sure it’s evident to anyone who’s read one of my posts), but actually because I do. Imo Ezri is, in many ways, Jadzia’s legacy; not the children she wanted, but still a legacy. I think Ezri is a lot stronger and more badass than people give her credit for. I think she’s absolutely the right match for Dax, despite the way she was joined, because like Jadzia before her she is resilient, has a big heart and is loyal to a fault. And she shows all this while struggling with a situation she was completely unprepared for, and trying to adapt to an entirely new identity.
This is probably going to be controversial but at this point I don’t care anymore: I think people dislike Ezri because she is in a difficult situation and struggles and is therefore very far from the (perceived) perfection any woman in Star Trek should display. And I hate that. I identify with Ezri and her nervousness and sarcasm and her uncertainty and her mistakes; the way she began to recover and rebuild her life when she found a community she knew she could trust; the way she stubbornly managed to make her previous lives become something useful to her and not only a disruption of her day-to-day life.
Yes Ezri isn’t perfect. She’s a work-in-progress, a young woman trying to rebuild her life, faced with high expectations and a mind that’s almost always working against her. That’s exactly why I love her, and when you try to change something about her and say ‘it would’ve been better this way’ I inevitably think of how little compassion is usually given to women who fail to embody the arbitrary ideal of perfect womanhood. I can’t help but think that Ezri’s existence is put into question because so many people can’t conceive that such a complex, imperfect woman could exist. But I can guarantee that we do. And like Ezri, we’re just doing our best and slowly recovering, regardless of what you think.
Oh thank you for this post, I am also so tired of all those posts that always wish Ezri was different or how they didn’t like Ezri. Ezri Dax is as deserving as the Dax symbiont as Jadzia was and they’re both wonderful.